I am so excited to introduce to you all my new feature, Fashioned in Confidence Fridays! Fashioned in Confidence is a term I coined back in 2017 when God downloaded the vision for Life Identified. As some of you may know, Life Identified initially started out as an image consulting company where my sessions were not only focused on physical appearance, but on one’s identity, personality, beliefs, self-worth, and self-esteem; this is still relevant today, as I believe in working on the whole person and not just the exterior. I wanted to ensure that I created a platform where women would be able to receive guidance and affirmations regarding their identity and how to confidently carry out the work that God created them to complete, all while doing so with style and grace. Identity has become a buzzword lately, as more and more people are trying to understand who they are and the purpose for which they were created. In fact, research shows that the millennial generation values purpose and looks to incorporate purpose in their career and day-to-day activities. The official meaning of “fashioned in confidence” can be found below. It outlines the fact that confidence cannot come from one’s physical appearance alone, instead, the belief in one’s self and their Creator are what makes them confident.

“Fashioned in Confidence is not merely the physical appearance of an individual, but it is an assurance, a certainty that one carries with them mentally and spiritually; which, results in bold moves, positive thinking, edifying language, purpose-filled actions, and an identity that is sure of itself. This confidence does not rely on his/her circumstances to make them feel secure, accomplished, pretty/handsome, or joyful, instead, their confidence comes from within and shines on the outside. Lastly, this confidence does not compete with others, but stands to applaud others that are attempting great things.”

I am honored to introduce to you my first Fashioned in Confidence Friday feature, Lyndsey Creecy! Lyndsey is one of my best friends who I met years ago at the University of West Georgia (UWG). Upon graduation from UWG, Lyndsey launched a blog and television show in Kentucky called, The Elle Scoop. She asked me to be one of her first contributing writers for the blog where I wrote under the nom de plume “The Mollie Column” and discussed concerns related to life after college. The Elle Scoop blog was such a great outlet for me considering my struggles with being a young professional in a world of opportunities. When I decided to launch Fashioned in Confidence Fridays, it was only right that I honor her by making her the first person to ever contribute to my blog, as she has been so instrumental in my growth as a person. Not to mention, she is the epitome of being fashioned in confidence. She takes the world by force with her unique charismatic approach, go-getter mentality, and her weapon, the Word of God. Take notes as she shares with you how she uses her words to create the life she wants for herself and her family.

“What You Say Over Your Life Will Affect Your Confidence”

“Sticks and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt.” ...Wait, what?!?

Fashioned in Confidence Lyndsey.JPG — Lyndsey Creecy

It amazes me every time I think about the sayings I grew up hearing and accepting. Many of them I have come to understand were never true. Regardless of the saying, words do pack a powerful punch. They may not fracture your bones, but they can definitely rupture the peace in your life. They can shatter your perspective, or skyrocket your morale; they can even crash your confidence or be the propeller that allows your confidence to soar.

Words have always been a powerful tool. Just think, the creation of the world we live in was brought to life and into existence by WORDS. We form beliefs and even make life decisions based on words written in books, magazines, newspapers etc. Words are impactful and we are influenced by the very words we hear and speak.

Perhaps the most powerful and influential words are the words we tell ourselves - The words we whisper about ourselves when we make mistakes, the words we scream when we’re not pleased with our performance or how we look, or what we say when we look around and feel like we don’t measure up.

Last year, I experienced a life changing moment. After a long morning, a few of my co-workers congregated together for an afternoon chat. It was refreshing to take a break and enjoy their company. After a couple minutes of talking, (about what I don’t know), I remember hearing one of my co-workers flippantly saying “man, I’m so stupid.” We all laughed jokingly. Suddenly, another co-worker in close proximity gently said “hey, be nice to my friend.” We all turned around confused thinking there was a misunderstanding. After a brief moment of silence, he said it again “be nice to my friend,” as he pointed back to the young man who last spoke.

In that very moment I stood speechless as I processed what took place. For a second, it took me aback. Those words hit home for me so hard. And then suddenly, a light bulb came on; a paradigm shift took place. Often times I had set such a high standard for how I wanted people to treat the loved ones around me, but I wasn’t so sure that I had set that same standard for the way I treated myself. That day, I made an effort to set a new standard going forward.

“What you say over your life will affect... your self-esteem, your confidence, the understanding of how precious you are to God and the understanding of how valuable you are to the world.”

The words we speak over our lives create a perspective that we are unable to escape. Our words are also a depiction of how we feel. If we view our lives with rose colored lenses, we’ll see our world from an optimistic perspective. However, if our view is negative, that is all we will ever see. Regardless of the situation.

We’ve all heard the old adage: “Watch your thoughts they become words, Watch your words they become actions, Watch your actions they become habits, Watch your habits they become character, Watch your character it becomes your destiny.”

Our lives (i.e.- our confidence, self-esteem, our perspective, etc.) are controlled not only by the words we speak, but the thoughts we think. Therefore, in order to change your life, you must first change your thoughts.

Negative self-talk is dangerous to your world. James 3:6 says “...the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.”

Areas in our lives may not always seem so upbeat and positive. At times, it can appear that our circumstances are the worst they may have ever been, but we have to be careful not to reinforce our circumstances with negative words and thoughts, after all, the scripture (above) says that the whole course of our lives, which means from start to end, is set on fire by the words that we utter. Therefore, we have to be vigilant in making sure that we speak life and not death over our lives.

How can I speak life without lying?!?

Often times it’s difficult to find a place to start because the circumstances can be really bad. However, we have to remember to take our focus off of our circumstances and place it on God, remembering to thank Him for what He HAS given us and for who He is. We have many things to be thankful for. Giving praise and thanksgiving forces our minds to see the good. It changes our perspective.

“Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!” Philippians 4:4 NKJV

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4:6-8 NKJV

Change your thoughts, change your words, change your world.

Lyndsey Creecy

Until next time,

Be Fashioned in Confidence!